Saturday, May 18, 2013

Boys of Ballet

As the mom of two young men who dance, I understand and have seen and stood up against the whole stigma some people in society still hold against the idea of boys in ballet., well actually, truth be told, boys in dance.  Repeatedly I was told that I was going to 'turn my kid gay' if I kept him in ballet.  It was and is a hot button issue.  We won't even go there right now.

This morning I checked in with a facebook group (postive dance moms and dads) to see this video that had been posted.


"Founded in 2012 by Martino Sauter, Boys of Ballet showcases the talent of male dancers from all over the world. Boys of Ballet raises the awareness of the male ballet dancer's strength and abilities beyond assisting the female ballerina. Boys of Ballet celebrates the power and agility of the male dancer and truly exemplifies the magnificence of the human body."
Bravo gentlemen, you boys of ballet - thank you for doing this.

Neither of my boys do ballet at the moment but they both started there.  The 16 year old began ballet at 3 in a local recreation centre class in what turns out was an all-girl studio.  When the word 'got out' he was teased by some children in kindergarten.  It could have ended then and there for him but that Christmas, I took him to see the Nutcracker.  Within seconds of the curtain going up, he clutched my arm with astonishment and joy - "MOM! There are BOYS dancing!"  And that was that.  We did end up moving to a different studio when he was 5 because it had all boy jazz and tap classes and he still taps there today.  Now back in mixed classes (ok, often it is just him and some lovely teenage girls, not a bad gig for a 16 year old boy), last year he received his ten year attendance trophy from his studio.  Last fall some people in our sphere were surprised that he wanted to register again.  But I think for him now, the studio and the people he has grown up dancing with or around is a bit of a special familiar place.  I like to think that anyways.

My 10 year old now has danced on and off since he was 3 or 4 at the same local studio and is at the point he is considering auditioning for company of which RAD ballet is a requirement.  Now he faces that 'terrible choice' mentioned in the video of taking ballet.  It shouldn't have to be a terrible choice, but it is a big choice for boys to pursue, even now, even still.  I hope he decides to go on audition day, just for the experience if nothing else, whether or not he is accepted into company and joins or doesn't.  I hope this video done by these amazing young men helps to show him the strength power and grace possible by boys in ballet.

If and when one or both of my children decide to not take dance, that will be okay too.  Unless it's because of teasing and bullying.  See hot button above.

Truthfully, I love the fact that my children dance, I love spontaneous crazy dance parties in the living room and I love knowing we have 3 dance bags in the car - one with tap shoes, one with jazz shoes, and mine with zils and a hip scarf...  it I think has helped them understand that you can pursue whatever interests you like as a boy or girl - if people are really your friends they will support you in your activities be they scouts, jazz band, soccer, chess, magic the gathering or dance.  If that message sticks for them, I count it as a parental success and treasure it. 

Sunday, May 12, 2013

a space oddity - nah, I'd call him a hero....

Today Col Hadfield handed command of the International Space Station over to a colleague and friend.  Tomorrow he and two of his fellow astronauts will plunge back to earth - back to a world they have help change.  It must seem so surreal.

Chris - I wonder if you realize....  I wonder if you realize how immense and profound your impact has been these past five months.... how many eyes you have opened, how many young imaginations you have sparked and how many older imaginations you have reignited.  How many conversations you have created in classrooms, in offices, around the dining room table and on the street - 'did you see what Chris did today?'  'did you see Chris's latest photo of Victoria?' 'I didn't know that's how astronauts had to brush their teeth!'

You are amazing for sharing this adventure with us Chris Hadfield....  I am so proud of you, all you have done, the imaginations you have sparked and eyes you have opened....  Thank you for the service you have not only given your country, but for the service you have given to humanity and to our future generations.  We salute you.

And personally, I can't wait to see where you go from here...

Sunday, May 5, 2013

Desiderata (courtesy of my angel with an a)

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.  As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons.  Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and  ignorant; they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.  Keep interested in your career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.  Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery.  But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.  Especially, do not feign affection.  Neither be critical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.  Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings.  Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. 

You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.  And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.  Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul. 

With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy.

© Max Ehrmann 1927

Saturday, May 4, 2013

Celebrating how our children shine....

May.

Evokes different things for different people.  Some simultaneously.  I live in a house like that.

There's May Day celebrating workers around the world.  Beltane and the May Day dances around the May Pole with images of Morris Dancers, girls in bright ribbons and flowers filling social media.  May the 4th falling on International Comic Day has brought an even bigger frenzy of Star Wars memes and heckling between Star Wars and Trekkies into the social media world.  My kids will make the trek down to their favourite comic stores to collect their free comics with relish and delight....

Spring - well, sort of spring - the magnolia trees have come and gone, the street is littered with blossoms from apple, cherry and plum trees and the purple lilacs are poking out.  People are hedging bets and planting their vegetables, risk takers even already have their tomatoes out.  Hanging basket fundraisers at school will take delivery of thousands of baskets across the southern coast and distribute to parents eager for colour in their gardens.

May is full of colour, emerging warmth, and possibility.

Now, some of you know I was raised in a house full of very creative and 'hippy' teachers - my mother was an art school teacher passionate about making art accessible not only to her own students but to other teachers.  Her master's was dedicated to creating modules for non-art teachers to use in their classrooms in a friendly exciting and amazing way.  Drama and speech arts was how I was treated for a very bad stutter and I grew up on the stage.  My sister Cathy lept on my grandfather's lap during a tv viewing of classical music, grabbed him by the collar and said, "Grandfather, I must play the violin".  She did - incredibly well.  My sister Michelle breathed drama and makeup.  One of my best friends was not only in every band at school but the local symphony and went on to become a music teacher.  The inclusion of art, drama, music and dance is a no brainer to me - like the very air we breath.

So in May, in my own grownup house with my two boys, May is mostly about celebrating artistic performance.  Normally this just involved the boys dance classes, music festivals, dress rehearsals, costume excitement and the actual dance recitals - usually about the same time as the hanging baskets show up for mother's day....  it is also normally about picking out costumes and learning choreography for my own dance class(es) as the end of the year recital and summer events draw ever closer.

This year May is also about the culmination of my eldest's first experience with a large scale school/community production.  After a hiatus of over 5 years, his high school has taken on a musical - complete with a pit band.  A. Pit. Band.  Now for many folks this is nothing to be plused about but for those of of us that grew up on the school and community theatre stage in smaller communities - this is a big deal.  And it's not just my son's school - it seems every single high school in the city is doing a musical with a pit band.  I am blown away by the commitment and dedication and PURE EFFORT this has taken by cast, musicians, teachers and crew.  Hours and hours of rehearsals - at lunchtime, after school, Sundays...  it's been an amazing process to watch my eldest go through and brought back so many memories for me.

And just as about the curtains were about to rise on opening night, word that Edmonton's school board is cutting funding to it's music enrichment program.  It was and is an affront and a blow to every bone in my body as a parent in this rich country where I have experienced and seen how the arts, drama and music can keep children engaged in the education process, enriching their lives, making them stronger adults and in some cases, even just keeping them in school period.  I hope they find away to keep the program going.  Kids need music.  Adults need music.  Schools need music.  Period.  I don't know what the outcome will be, I don't know how effective letters to the board and petitions will be.  I hope they are. Truly truly I hope they are and the program is saved.  Not just saved, but gets back to a place where every middle and high school in Edmonton has a full blown music program so students don't have to travel on buses to other schools for their music involvement.  (whole other rant - that one).

Last night I sat in the audience on opening night of Guys and Dolls at my son's school in awe as the pit band and cast and crew weaved magic.  No, it wasn't  perfect but it was magic nonetheless.  Each participant on the stage shone in their own ways and made the story their own.  I sat in the audience and every fibre in my body screamed... this.  this is why Schools need music.  And drama.  And art.  Every bit as much as they need sports and environmental and language programs to augment the 'academics'.  We want a society filled with responsible, respectful, well rounded understanding people.  It starts at home, it starts in their communities as they grow, it starts at school.  Celebrate what your children participate in - sports, arts, academics, chess club, quidditch, gardening.  Celebrate them and watch how they shine.

So this May as local stages are filled with music and dance festivals, musicals and plays... head on down to your local school, buy a $10 ticket and sit and just sit and appreciate the beautiful gift that arts bring to our children.  Take your kids or nieces and nephews to a museum or outdoor concert this summer.  Take in a recital at the local conservatory, sit and watch a busker.  Just sit, watch, appreciate the effort and love these people have for what they are doing.  Support all arts in our schools.  Volunteer, buy hanging baskets and raffle tickets and chocolate, go to their performances....  And watch our future generations shine.

And yes, if you're wondering...  my son's school production rocked.